SAY 'NO' TO THAT BAD HABIT.

Trying to stop bad habits is a big challenge for many people. They engage in their bad habits for a reason, and that reason does not just go away because the person

chooses to stop his bad habits. Whether a bad habit is biting fingernails, being consistently late, or overeating--stopping bad habits is hard to do. Learn how to effectively stop bad habits.

      1.  Identify the bad habits you want to stop. Often people who engage in bad habits live in denial that they even have any bad habits. People can become quite

effective in fooling themselves into believing that they do not have a problem when they actually do. Until you acknowledge that you are engaging in bad habits, you

will be powerless to stop bad habits.

      2.  Figure out why you engage in bad habits. People do not do things repeatedly unless the bad habits are working for them at some level. For example, the

person who consistently overeats might be "stuffing down" pain. The person who bites her fingernails might be relieving anxiety. Understanding what you are getting

out of the bad habits is the key to stopping them.

      3.  Choose an alternative behavior that is less "bad." If you try to use will power to stop bad habits, you are very likely to return to them. This is because your

habits are meeting a need. Instead, choose an alternative behavior that can meet the same need. For example, if you overeat to "stuff down" emotional pain, try talking

about your feelings instead. Write down your feelings in a journal or talk with a friend about your pain. If you bite your fingernails to relieve anxiety, try doing yoga or

going for a walk to calm yourself whenever you feel the urge to bite your fingernails.

      4.  Engage in the alternative behavior first. Once you have chosen an alternative behavior, you need to begin building your confidence in that behavior's ability to

meet your needs. Whenever you get the urge to engage in the bad habits, try the alternative method first. Give yourself fifteen minutes of using the new method before

you engage in your bad habits again.

      5. Allow the occasional indulgence in your old habits. If fifteen minutes of using the alternative method does not meet the need, then allow yourself to engage in

your bad habits one time with no guilt. By doing this, you are reassuring yourself that your needs will be met. Then, the next time the need arises, you will be less likely

to lean on the bad habit because you know that you are not depriving yourself of anything.

       6. Celebrate your progress along the way. Every choice you make toward stopping bad habits is worth celebrating.Give yourself lots of positive encouragement.

WHAT TO DO WHEN THE WORLD IS AGAINST YOU

Okay, that might be a bit of an exaggeration, but it got your attention didn’t it?  I’m talking about that horrible position that we have all found ourselves in at some point in our lives, when we feel strongly and passionately about something, but someone we care about just isn’t on the same page. The issue in question can be something small or large, but the conundrum is a constant.

Here’s an example of something on the small end of the scale: You love blogging, tweeting, social networking etc. You enjoy being constantly connected. But, your significant other/co-workers/friends/family don’t understand. They make (not so subtle) comments about how much time you spend on your computer and/or Blackberry, they knock Twitter without even trying it…you get where I’m going with this.

Now, something more serious: You’re not happy with the current state of your life, and you know you need to make a change. Maybe you start looking for jobs in a different field, decide to go back to school to pursue your passion, or risk it all and start your own business. You might even decide to move somewhere new, push yourself out of your comfort zone, and start fresh (gasp!). Again, your significant other/co-workers/friends/family don’t understand. They think you should be grateful for what you have, they think you’re giving up, you’re young and naive, too much of a risk taker. You have a great life, they would be happy to have a life like yours. They don’t understand why you’re doing what you’re doing, but they don’t try to understand or make any effort to support you.

So, what the heck do you do? Here are some ideas and things to keep in mind:

•     Make sure that whatever you’re doing is what you want to do. Is it something that will make you happier? Improve your quality of life? Keep you sane? If so, move on to step two. If not, you have some serious self-examination to do.

•     Realize that there are some people who will never understand. They are stuck in their ways, steadfast in their opinions, and no matter how hard you try, you won’t change their mind. You can’t please everybody. Accept this and move on.

•     Remember that we only have this one life, so we have to make the most of it. If you’re not happy with your life and you know a way to change that, go for it. What are you waiting for? If you put it off,  your feelings of discontent will just come back again bigger and stronger.

•     Put yourself first. Do not let someone else’s negativity ruin your happiness. Do not become consumed with worry about how other people are going to feel. The truth is, you can’t control their reactions. In fact, there are a lot of things that are beyond our power, which is a tough thing to grasp, but so important to remember.

•     If you keep thinking that you wish someone would understand, try explaining it to them.  It sounds simple, but we’re often too quick to assume and don’t give people a chance.

•     Even if you have embraced change, it may take your loved ones a while to do so. But, this doesn’t mean they never will. This is your life we’re talking about here. You know all of the reasons behind the change, you’re passionate about it.  Unfortunately, that’s not enough for some people, no matter how much they love us. So, give them a chance. Just because they can’t or won’t support you now doesn’t mean they never will. If they truly care about you, they’ll find a way.

• . There are so many inspiring people out there who pursue their dreams, run their own businesses, pick up and move across the country, travel the globe experiencing different cultures, and helping people …and I’ve only skimmed the surface.

People aren’t always going to agree with us. But, that’s okay because life would be pretty boring if they did. Believe in yourself, don’t give up, make your happiness a top priority. Even though some people in your life may not support you, there are some who do, so soak up their positive energy to help dispel the negative. Reach out to people with common interests, dreams, or goals. Most importantly, stay true to yourself.

I want to hear from you: What do you do if someone doesn’t understand where you’re coming from? Have you ever been in a tough situation like this?  How did you deal with it? What advice would you have for others? Was it worth it in the end?

THE DANGER OF LIVING IN THE PAST

Just as it is painful for many people to look back, some people cannot seem to get out of the past. The past, for them, is better than the present; therefore, they chose to live there instead.
You probably know several people who live in the past. They speak of it often, compare today to yesterday, and have a hard time accepting the fact that the past is never coming again. This can be paralyzing to healthy self-esteem.
At first thought, you may assume that most people who live in the past are older and have retired. This is not the case. Many young people live in the past as well. They are caught up with people and events of which they just can't seem to let go.
It is perfectly fine, even recommended, that you revisit your past to clear up unfinished business and even to remember and bask in the good times, but living there, as a rule, is unhealthy.
Jan loved her job as much as life itself it seemed. She was productive, admired, and had moved through the ranks with impressive speed. She was touted as being “the next CEO.” Everything was working in her favor. She remembers vividly the Wednesday evening that her husband came home and broke the news: “I've been transferred.” Bill was a successful banking executive and his company wanted to make him a regional vice president. After much discussion, Jan and Bill decided that it was a great offer that they could not turn down. Jan knew that she could easily find another job in her field of insurance.
Shortly after they moved, Jan began to look for employment. Finding the right job, or any job for that matter, was much more difficult than she had imagined. After several months, she accepted a position as an entry-level manager in a local insurance office.

“Living in the past is a dull and lonely business; looking back strains the neck muscles, causes you to bump into people not going your way.”
— Edna Ferber

Jan was not passionate about the job, but it offered her the opportunity to be out of the house and on a career track again. Jan saw many problems with the local office and set out to correct them. One day, Jan overheard her coworkers talking about her. “That lady had better wake up and realize that she is just a manager, not the CEO,” one said to the other. “Yeah, I'm so tired of hearing about how they did it back in Oakland.”
Jan was devastated. She began to realize just how much of the past she had brought with her. Here skills and talents were still great, but she had failed to move beyond her past position. She realized that she was still living in her old job and working toward goals that were tied to her past position. She revisited her comments to her current peers and was shocked to remember how many times she had said, “Back in Oakland,” or “We used to do it this way,” or “When I was vice president …”

DOES THE PAST DETERMINE YOUR FUTURE?

                  "Live in Your Imagination and Not Your Memory." Steven Covey.

Sounds good – but how? How do we live in our imaginations and not in our memories?

How often have we allowed the past to determine the future? How often have we allowed the past to justify not succeeding in the present and guaranteeing, therefore, our failures in the future? Give you an example: Try this statement on for size: “We are descended of slaves.” True? True. But when will that statement become just what it is: the truth - nothing more, nothing less - and stop being an excuse for failure? Now I know that’s a touchy subject; but how are we going to move forward in positive, productive directions (with confidence) if we continue to justify not succeeding? People throw that line out like a 'get out of jail free card’ in a game of Monopoly. I don’t know about you, but I don’t want an excuse card. I don’t want to be excused from success. I don’t want to be excused from achieving. I don’t want to be excused from the state of mind that creates an awesome life simply because of what I think about my descendents being slaves (and slave masters).

“But it’s a valid excuse” some may say. The moment we say that, we’ve nailed our own coffin. We have to understand that there is no valid excuse. The moment we realize that, is the moment we begin to create a different life. That’s the moment our lives will change. That can be the defining moment between a life of mediocrity, acquiescence and acceptance, and a life of magnificence, splendor and, dare I say, fulfillment. Until we change, nothing changes. Success waits for us to change: to no longer be the victim but the victor; to slay the trappings of habitual and programmed thought and behavior and reign victorious over the creation of our own lives. Until then, we cannot even begin to live in our imaginations.

I have given but one instance where we sometimes not even knowingly, use our past to determine our future. There are many places and times that we habitually unconsciously whip out that ‘Get out of Success Free’ card and thereby justify our failure before we even attempt success. But just as each of us is unique and different, we each interpret our experiences in different ways and from different angles and must, therefore, find those excuses that are unique to us. I was raped … I was abused … I was fired … I was cheated on … I didn’t graduate … I was a teenage mom ... and on and on and on. We each have to explore our own lives to begin to understand the excuses unique to us that keep us from imagining a different outcome.

SUCCESS IS WITHIN YOUR REACH.

We all have dreams we want to pursue, goals we want accomplished and most of us go through life eager and determined to battle life’s challenges with the hope that one day all of our aspirations will come true. The road to success though is not the same for everybody nor is it as simple as having that one firm goal to turn dreams into reality. One person will surprisingly find it too easy while others need to combat immeasurable challenges to make it.
There are many factors that affects one’s potential to succeed and one of them largely depends on one’s emotional state. The idea is that a person with a firm drive to succeed has controlled and positive emotions that are essential to success. But what if someone has an excellent dream but along with that dream lies fears, anxiety, doubt, and other terrible feelings that can affect one’s potential to succeed.
When was the last time you had to work while suffering from an emotional distress? There is no doubt that your emotional despair has negatively affected your performance at work. It’s a sad thing that for as long as you probably can remember, the standards of society encourages people to set aside their emotions; to work and perform their duties even if their heart is heavy and their mind is full of grief.
However, one’s emotion is difficult if not totally impossible to ignore. People who want to succeed should have the will and the courage to be gentle with their feelings by taking care of their emotions first. This is because success would be elusive to people who keeps on ignoring the need to solve the problems that makes it difficult for them to reach it.
It’s a good thing that there is now an alternative form of healing that encourages people to deal with their negative emotions first- the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT). This new and unconventional therapy is created by Gary Craig and works with the belief that negative emotions disturbs the field of energy in the body resulting to imbalance that may cause sickness, sadness, fears, etc. These emotional baggage’s are recognized and addressed in EFT.
It is likened to another alternative cure which is acupuncture because they share the similar principles. Traditional acupuncture, searches for the pressure points in the body where the disease/illness/pain is concentrated and then heals it. In EFT, the individual taps a specific part of the body while focusing on an event or thought that is associated with the negative emotions. This is done through a method called tapping therapy. This is the reason why it is sometimes referred to as the acupuncture of the mind.
In tapping therapy, the individual focus on the negative emotions and then try to picture him free with it. The patient is also encouraged to say affirmative words out loud to reinforce the thought that they are indeed free from the emotional distress they are experiencing. This is done continuously for a specific period and apparently would lead to self discovery and freedom. One can do it by himself or seek the help of a therapist.
There many articles on the net regarding EFT for those who wants to do some research before trying it. There are also a lot of tutorial videos about EFT that are available on the net for those who want visual explanation and guide about it.
The downside of this alternative cure is that it not widely accepted in the medical field as scientific. It has been criticized to lack scientific methods as well as lack of anecdotal evidence that tapping can indeed correct the fields of energy in the body.
Critics regard those who claimed to have benefited from this technique to have just experienced what they call a placebo effect. Those who regard EFT as pseudoscience claim that the positive results that patients get from it is not really from the balancing of energy fields on the body, but from the benefits of its other components such as medication, positive thinking, etc. Its growing popularity is also attributed with word of mouth and growing presence on the internet.
Even with the criticisms involving EFT, many would say that it is worth a try especially for people who have tried all else but have failed to experience rewarding results. It is worth a try because it is easy to do and learn, mostly cost nothing at all and trains people to listen to their feelings and acknowledging it before it negatively affects their life.www.fountainbrain.blogspot.com

HOW TO ACTUALIZED YOUR GOALS AND DREAMS.

Do you know how the expression visualization has become a significantly hot topic? Ever given that the hit film "The Secret" men and women have be opening up to the limitless prospective you and I possess.

Most men and women are NOT manifesting their dreams, targets and wishes. Yes it's entirely correct there are many individuals who have skilled Remarkable outcomes considering that films like The Secret, but how several people are truly regularly applying the Law of Attraction with excellent accomplishment?

There is a sure syntax, a recipe for good results if you will. This recipe is definitely not generic, in reality, it's customized for you! There are particular misconceptions that numerous folks have about the time period visualization. So let's fixed the report straight and give you some new awareness that I know will support you commence to achieve the existence you truly want to reside and Totally deserve to dwell!

Secret #1 - Feeling Is The Key

What does emotion stand for? Energy in Movement. When most people feel of the expression visualization they feel of what? Visualizing some thing on the display screen of their brain, appropriate? If you are visualizing even so you are NOT fully emotionalizing your intentions and receiving fired up about what you want to attain, purchase and accomplish then your chances of in fact manifesting what ever you are visualizing are second to none. Sorry to be blunt.

Assume about it this is a Sensation primarily based Universe. When you get completely engulfed with emotion and Completely emotionalize all your visualization with absolute pleasure, love and exhilaration then THAT'S when you will commence to manifest all your dreams and needs. Thinking about it alone is not sturdy adequate. Get Fired up and Truly passionate about your visualization sessions and start off to observe the magic unfold.

How To Hint: Commence listening to your favorite audio whilst visualizing. You can also attempt neuro affiliate linking. Which is a minor more sophisticated but nevertheless straightforward. I want you to assume of a thing in your past that created you happy.have it? As soon as you have that imagined right away change back to your new visualization session. That is an additional trick to assist amp up the feeling and get you into a greater vibrational frequency.

Secret #2 - Time Is Not A Factor

What did I do when I very first began training visualizing? I invested many a long time, I imply Numerous hrs into seeing every little thing in excellent detail. The very good information is that you can discover from my mistakes!

I am really severe when I say visualizing daily really should only acquire you 2-3 minutes. That's it. Not 10, not 20, not even 30 mins a day. Emotion is far more essential right here than time body. You can poor much more sensation into visualizing in a 10 2nd idea or thought than a 10 moment visualization. That my friends is the crucial and basically crucial to apply.

How To Suggestion: Pay attention to your preferred songs and actually get thrilled!! The wonderful news is that most songs are only 2-3 mins prolonged. Make it a behavior to pay attention to 1 of your preferred tracks and permit your ideas circulation. I can ensure you this WILL get you absolutely Amped about all your goals and ambitions!

Secret #3 - I Can't See Plainly

The largest misconception I locate when other folks commence visualizing is that that assume they should see the pictures clearly in their thoughts. Clarity is crucial, nonetheless Sentiment is significantly a lot more important.

You know how we all procedure information in a different way, properly if you are a lot more kinesthetic then analytical odds are you might have a problem experiencing the picture on the display of your brain. So what does this imply?

You don't have to see it.really feel it. Bear in mind we stay in a feeling based mostly Universe. Most people get caught up on the expression "VISUALization." Give yourself a break, don't operate at this and enable every thing movement. You'll be surprised what will come about following in your life.

How To Suggestion: What sensations, sensations, and rushes of energy do you knowledge when you visualize? Concentrate on people and permit All those sensations rush out. Emphasis on how you experience and let all the details determine on their own out. Be certain to discover a quiet spot to unwind gone from noise or distractions.

Secret #4 - Don't Have A Arranged Agenda




Why do this? Merely due to the fact you are instruction your brain to be spontaneous. If every day you visualize at 7am on the dot for 3 min's odds are you are heading to get bored! I know for myself taking this sort of strategy usually sent me to dropping my emotional purchase in around time.

Be positive to combine it up and be spontaneous with visualizing. This is primarily Essential to holding your emotional exhilaration amounts at 10. Just as an artist can have an inspiration at a moments observe, you will need to take the exact same method as well. When you really feel that imaginative urge to visualize that's the time to consider people 2-3 minutes and Actually leap into your new actuality. Hold it new and enjoyable!

How To Hint: Whenever you really feel pleasure and rush of feelings commit the time then for a number of brief mins to Visualize. Don't wait till later for your "established program." Take the action and feel it although people feelings are current.

Secret #5 - Expand Your Vision

Here's what I can share with you (this is extremely critical!). Most people based mostly their visualizing upon what they feel they can attain, not what they WANT to accomplish. What do you Actually want in your lifestyle? What do you want to receive, attain, and become?

When I very first heard this I was merely blown aside! I experienced by no means asked myself this before and genuinely struggled to arrive up with an answer. I've now reached a level in my existence when something I visualize about is obtainable to me. You wouldn't have the desire unless you experienced the capacity to achieve it.

Where ever your visualizing will take you let it. Permit your mind increase due to the fact extremely often the Universe (or whatever you want to call it) has considerably Larger Plans then we even anticipated. From now on genuinely invest into oneself and base your choices on what you actually want in your lifestyle, not what you assume you can achieve.

How to Suggestion: Just before you commence visualizing be fully open up minded and relaxed. Be open to new opportunities and ideas that you might never ever have considered of just before. Often occasions I'm astonished of the extremely effective ideas that appear from my visualizing by allowing myself to open up up to the infinite choices in this living. Be certain to do the exact same. You’ll be astonished to say the least.

DREAM VISUALIZATION

It’s actually a lot easier than you think. The chances are good that you see images in your mind all the time. Reading a novel and talking to someone as they tell you a story are both things that provoke visualization.
Even though you visualize all the time in the background, you need to turn this skill into something you can use to get exactly what you want. You can’t just skim the surface and expect to get results, you have to go deep into a stage of visualization and really start to own it.
Painting a picture in your mind means blocking everything else out. You can’t have any distractions at all. Do you have the problem many people have where all you can think about is some kind of impending doom? Maybe you’re in debt or you are nervous about a public speaking event coming up. You probably don’t have any problems visualizing those at the time because your emotions are involved. Instead of emotionally involving yourself in the negative aspects of your life you should emotionally involve yourself in the positive things you’re trying to attract. Many people think that they can just say or think, “I want that” and expect it to happen. If you don’t focus your vision and harness that emotional energy you’ll have a hard time getting the things you desire out of life.
Start out by creating a vivid picture in your mind of you already having achieved your goals. Really make yourself feel the emotions as if they were happening right then. Since you’re creating a state of utter happiness and you’ve “already” reached your goal your brain will start to force itself to create that path.
Many people will make the mistake of not being specific enough. You really have to get very detailed with what you visualize. Do you want a new car? See every single nook and cranny of that car in your mind. Feel the fabric, smell the fresh interior, feel the rubber of the tires. Hear the sound of the engine as you turn the key.
You have to focus on visualization and repeat the process at least once a day for a full ten minutes. It is recommended that you do it more often! The more frequently you use the power of visualization the more the ideas will sink into your mind and manifest.
Learning how to visualize is not hard, but it does take discipline. Make this the first day of the rest of your life as you use the power of visualization to really make your dreams come true.